Have you ever had one of those highly unpleasant exchanges when someone you love asks, “Is it your time of the month?” Bad idea. Very bad idea.
Let me just say, that is never a good question to ask a woman because usually when that question is asked, it is because she just freaked out or melted down! Let’s be honest — emotions crest and feelings take a dive on any given day of the month! It isn’t always hormones that make our emotions get out of control!
Emotions are like the little employees in your brain! You employ them. They help you out a ton. But then, they get a little grumpy and all of the sudden, you think, “Wait! I thought I was the boss!”
Strategy #1 — Avoid avoidable situations
If running late brings you stress and makes you angry, you can avoid running late (at least most of the time!). Plan ahead; wake up earlier to avoid the mad rush. If you can’t control your emotions, then control the situations that you can. If watching a sappy movie plummets you into a pit of sadness because you fight loneliness, then watch comedies instead.
Strategy #2 — Modify your expectations
If you expect your house to be perfectly clean, you will be frustrated when a human being enters your front door. If you expect that you should perform perfectly all the time, you will fight deep disappointment every minute of every imperfect day.
Strategy #3 — Shift your attention
What we focus on is all we see. If you struggle with feeling inferior, stop focusing on the people who you think are superior to you. If you have feelings of low self-esteem because you can’t keep the weight off, stop staring at all the skinnys at the gym.
Strategy #4 — Monitor your thinking
What you feel is often a result of what you think and believe, so do an inventory of your beliefs. Open wide the door of your Thought Closet and be honest about what is in there. Is what you believe true? Are your thoughts based on truth? Are your feelings in response to stinking thinking or are they a result of sound beliefs and wisdom?
Sister, you really are the boss of your emotions! They exist to serve you, not the other way around, so ask God to give you wisdom. He will. Fertilize the seeds of truth in your life with prayer, grace and His Word and the beautiful fruit of self-control will blossom in your life.
Do you have any other strategies that help you control your emotions? If so, please share in the comments below.