Is every conversation you have with your family members or co-workers perfectly calm, controlled and pleasant? (I know, I know, you’re laughing!)
Married women: ever had one of those conversations with your husband where you get heated, he gets heated and then…bang! A full-blown fight explodes.
Moms: ever had one of those conversations with your teenager where you get heated, she gets heated and then…bang! A full-blown fight explodes?
Working women: ever had one of those conversations with your co-worker where you get heated, she gets heated and then… bang! Hopefully a full-blown fight doesn’t explode, but inside, are you an inferno?
None of us want that in our relationships. So, what can you do to prevent it or break the “heat, heat, bang, explode” pattern?
Pour a glass of water.
Here’s what I mean. Hold a full glass of water so you can hold a full conversation without things getting out of hand.
If you’re a potential over-reactor or nuclear reactor when it comes to conflict, to keep yourself from flying off the handle, hold a full glass of water as you talk about your issue.
If you start to become a volcano right before it erupts, you’ll get that little tremor inside, your body will flinch and the water will spill. You get it, right? If you don’t want water to spill, you’ve got to stay steady and calm. This is a good way to tiptoe through the minefield if you’re explosive or the person you’re talking to is.
Then, hold your glasses and hold a conversation.
If the water remains in the glass, most likely your temper has remained in control. If it spills out on to your hand, it will be a quick reminder that you want to remain calm and steady.
Okay, okay. I admit that I know this because I can get a little sparky sometimes! This has helped me stay calm and aware when my feelings are starting to run off without my brain. And, no… I know some of you are thinking, “yeah, and if it just doesn’t work, I can baptize the knucklehead!” Down sparky!
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. (Ephesians 4:32)
In the comments, let us know if you have any good ideas for dealing with conflict.