Give Courage Not Just Compliments

What do you need more… courage or compliments?

Think about it. Which one boosts you and buoys you? Which one gives you what you need to take the next step or do the next right thing?

For me, it’s courage that I need. Compliments are nice, really nice, but courage does something in me that is bigger and stronger.

How to Be Present Where You Are

Picture this: I’m visiting a friend whom I haven’t seen in years.

We’ve been able to stay in touch on the phone and by email. I’m traveling through her hometown and we meet for lunch. We hug, squeal, exchange “oh you look so good” comments, and then order our lunch. As we eat, we catch up on our kids and lives.

After the first frenzy of conversation, she’s less chatty. She doesn’t answer my questions very quickly. She seems so distracted. Our conversation loses its rhythm.

Fully present

Then she says something about someone she’s following on Twitter, and I think, “Where in the world did that come from? I don’t even know who she’s talking about.”

Three Boundaries That Will Set You Free

Oh girl, I need boundaries!

Just like a child is more secure when she has boundaries, I am learning that I am more free to be me when I have boundaries too.

As I’m learning how to identify with my identity and find myself in God’s view of me, I am learning that boundaries help me.


Boundaries help me stay close to God and my true identity.

Cooking with the Blind and the Blonde: Recipe for No-Bake Energy Bites

So, Sunday night I decided to be spontaneous with my friend Angela and turn on Periscope while we made No-Bake Energy Bites.

The result was laughter and lots of Periscopers joining us in my kitchen.

Lots of women asked for the recipe and I told them I would give it to them right here on my blog. So, here it is sisters!


It’s easy, fast and so, so good! And, if you aren’t on Periscope yet, join me on Periscope to get in on the fun!

A Promise for Moms Watching A Child Suffer

Over the years, lots of stories have been written about my journey into blindness. After a particular magazine interview, I dialed the phone. “Mom, I just finished an interview and I really think the writer is going to do a good job. I think you will like the article.” I continued, “And, Mom, she asked if she could interview you. She only has a few questions and I wondered if you could?”


My mom hesitated. Her response taught me so much about God’s grace.

When You’ve Had Enough, He is Enough


Welcome to Spill the Beans! In this post, I’m answering a question submitted by a reader, and… spilling my beans! If you’d like to submit a question, you can email me by clicking here.

This question struck me because it was so poignant and honest. And, it helped me too… it reminded me once again that you can accept something God allows and still experience weariness. All I could really give my blind, tired sister was empathy. And, that is what Jesus gives each of us every day. Read her words, you may see your own.

Superhero Capes Not Required

When both of my boys were growing up, they loved superheroes. I mean, what little boy isn’t fascinated with Batman and Superman who always arrive without a minute to spare and save the day? We’d sit on the living room floor with the miniature figurines and make up missions and rescues and cheer when the whole city was saved.

God fills the holes with Himself

We would take Superman and have him fly toward the “burning” Lego skyscraper and swoop in just in time to save the family. All the while his cape was flying in the wind like a true hero.

I didn’t realize it then – in fact, it took years for me to realize it – but Superman wasn’t the only one who wore a cape. I wore a superhero cape too—my superhero cape was my faith.

Seeing Through My Nose

I open a new bottle of shower gel this morning and squeeze some in my hand and immediately I am carried away to another time and place. I am back in North Florida at my grandmother’s home on a warm summer morning. It was Dove soap that gave me wings for time travel.


Just the fragrance of that soap brought back a ton of happy memories of my Saraberg. That was what we called her. She was my mom’s mother and she went to heaven several  years ago. I miss her. She always had a brand new bar of Dove soap in her shower when I visited and the fresh clean scent reminds me of her.

Has that ever happened to you – where you instantly time travel to another time and another place?  It’s fascinating when that happens, isn’t it?

You’re the Sister I Never Had

Assad and Amaan are now my honorary brothers. One is from Ethiopia and the other from Somalia, and they both work in the Dallas airport. They’ve been in the US for about 5 years and they are both cheerful, hardworking men. I call them my new brothers because they called me “my sister!”

“Step up here, my sister,” Assad said as he helped me into the cart to transport me to my gate. Then, when he transferred me to Amaan for the second leg of my hurry-flurry through the airport, Amaan said, “hello, my sister. I will get you to your gate. You not worry.”


I loved the way they treated me; it felt like family. They helped me like they would help their own mother. They were protective and as kind to me as they would be to their own sisters.

Why don’t we talk like that to each other?  Why don’t we act like that to each other?